What I’ve Learned From My Long-Term Relationship (8th Anniversary)

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Today, Robert and I are celebrating our 8th anniversary. Or technically, not today because most probably, I will post this past midnight LOL. I’m not going to elaborate what we had done today, or I’m not going to post an open letter (we already said the sweetest notes or messages to each other already, no need to spill it out online). Instead, I’ll share what I’ve learned from this relationship.

Also, please note that  I’m by no means a love or relationship expert. These are just based on my experience.

  • Not all the time  you have the same interests

    Of course, you do have same interests but not all the time. This is the perfect time to know more about your partner. Learn to blend your interest to your partner’s interest. This is also the perfect timing to do different things than the things you both used to do.

  • Give personal space

    Yes, you’ve been together for quite some time now. But remember that both of you are still two different individuals. Everyone of us doesn’t want to be suffocated. You both still have things that should be done individually.

  • Quality time

    I know that you have to give or need personal space but make sure that you’re not using your quality time together. Being busy on other things isn’t an excuse. Always make time for each other. If there’s a will, there’s a way. This is also a perfect time to catch up on each other.

  • Take care of yourself

    Though your partner has seen you with or without make up or clothes and accepted you for who you really are doesn’t mean you’re not going to take care of yourself. Aside of feeling good about your body, physically or mentally, you still should atleast be presentable to your partner. Be the best you can be.

  • Give your full support

    Sometimes, we might disagree on things our partner wants. You just have to explain what do you think about your partner’s decision in a very calm and nice way. If they still insists and as long as noone’s going to be hurt and the decision makes your partner happy, always always support them no matter what.

  • Don’t lose communication

    We can’t avoid being busy or occupied by  different things. But again, it’s not an excuse. Noone will be occupied every second in a day. You can definitely take advantage of the technology and just tell to your partner that you’re working on things and you’ll talk to them later of the day. A single text message won’t hurt. But this will not end here, communication is also reaching out to your partner. If you want something to say, say it. If you’re afraid or confused say it. If y ou have a problem about something, share it. You have to talk. Communication is the key of everything.

  • Social media isn’t about everything

    Even we’re living in a technology world and sharing-everything-online-generation, doesn’t mean  you’re responsible to over share online. Usually, a private relationship lasts longer.

  • Money is the stupidest thing to start an argument

    Money is naturally supposed to earn and spend. If one of you mistakenly spent some bucks or a grand, no need to fight about it. You will earn it again. Just talk about it and learn from your mistakes.

  • Appreciate every little thing

    Remember that happiness starts on little things. Just be appreciative. Be thankful. Treasure every moment.

Vlog Ep 1: Half of 2016

I don’t have enough memory space on my cellphone anymore even I have 16GB internal and 32GB external memory. So I decided to use Youtube as my video storage. Here, I put some of my videos that are 16:09 ratio to perfectly fit on youtube screen. I also want it to be raw as possible as I could.

Here are some of the things happened from the past 6 months. Yay!

 

Hanash Eps. 1: Sunday Morning Feelings

 

Nag-try ako gumagawa ng bagong kaaneknekan. Ganito yata talaga pag-bum e. LOL. Dahil din yata sa sobrang opinionated ako tao. Sobrang raw din nito. Nakailang try din ako. Nganga lang. Kaya pagtyagaan na natin ‘to. Halos lahat naman hindi perfect sa simula e. Haha, choss. Pampalubag loob, haha.

Naghanash lang ako tungkol sa Sunday Morning Feelings. May specific feelings kasi tayo tuwing Linggo e. Ewan ko rin kung bakit laging gano’n. Basta ‘yon! Ha-ha.

 

Paano Ba Kasi Mag Move On, Beh?

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Thanks to mememaker.net for this cool meme.

Na-confuse naman ako kung pa’no i-spell ‘yong “Beh” sa title. LOL. Wala nga ako maisip kung ano ipo-post ko sa Pag-ibig Tips ko ngayon e. Pero dahil kailangan natin maging consistent, ayan, nauwi sa pagmo-move on. O nga pala, kung gusto mo makaiwas ngumawa dahil sa pag-ibig, nag post ako no’ng nakaraan ng iilan sa listahan. Andito oh.

Dahil tungkol ‘to sa pagmo-move on, gagawa ulit ako ng listahan para mas categorized. Ang taray! HA-HA.

  1. Ngumawa ka lang. Una syempre, alam nating masakit. Oo beh, masakit. Wag mo itanggi. Lalo na ‘yong tipong wala ka namang ginawang kasalanan ta’s bigla makikipag break ang ungas. Ta’s may pahabol pa na di mo kasalanan, s’ya daw ang may problema. Ah, letse! Ewan ko sayo. Pero tandaan mo, kung nasaktan ka. Hindi masama umiyak. Ingawa mo. Maglupasay ka. Ilabas mo ‘yang sama ng loob mo. Inuulit ko, HINDI MASAMA UMIYAK. Normal ‘yan. Ewan ko din ba kug bakit ‘yong iba sinasabi na wag mo iyakan. E, malamang nasaktan ka. Tao ka, may feelings din. Normal ‘yan. Ayon nga sa nabasa ko, ”Crying is a natural emotional response to certain feelings, usually sadness and hurt. But then people [also] cry under other circumstances and occasions,”.
  2. Magpakalunod ka sa alak. De, joke lang. People tend to seek comfort kasi. Alam mo ‘yon? ‘yong tipong hahanap ka ng makakatulong sa’yo i-overcome o kalimutan ang lahat. Naalala ko ‘yong trainer ko sa CNX, si Raf. Sabi n’ya hindi daw lahat ng taong umiinom e, pa-cool lang o kaya para sa barkada. Madalas, umiinom kasi may pinagdadaanan. Hindi naman ako nag-disagree sa sinabi n’ya. Alam naman natin lahat ‘yon. Hindi din natin masasabing engot ang taong nagdesisyon lunurin ang sarili sa alak dahil sa problema. Wag tayo magpakaimpokrito. Nasaktan ka, kung naramdaman mo na kahit sandali nabawasan ang sakit dahil sa alak, GO! Pero make sure na after the days being drunk, you stand again and face the freaking world.
  3. Libangin ang sarili. Humanap ka ng ibang pagkakaabalahan. Do the things you haven’t done before. Be crazy to chase something new. Uso nga ngayon ‘yong mag-travel e. Hiking o beach beach lang. Wala kang pera? Sus, ang daming mura. 350 Pesos lang sa Antipolo oh, may bundok ka nang tatapakan. Mag-aral ka ng bagong bagay, may TESDA na nagbibigay ng mura o libreng online course. Mag Zumba ka, 20 Pesos lang sa Q.C. Circle. Mag blog ka, why not? Be with your friends ang family. Lalo na ‘yong mga kaibigan na di mo na nakikita dahil busy ka sa kan’ya. Tsk. As long na nalilibang mo ang sarili mo at di mo naiisip ang mga bagay na nakapagpapaisip sa’yo tungkol sa kan’ya, gora lang ng gora.
  4. Enhance yourself. Di ko naman sinsabing baguhin mo sarili mo drastically, i-enhance mo lang. Be fit, make a new look. ‘yong iba nga nagpapagupit at nagpapakulay  pa ng buhok. Hashtag, balik alindog challenge. LOL. Bigyan mo naman ng konting halaga sarili mo. Oo, sinabi ko na umiyak ka ta’s mag-inom ka o anoman kasi nga normal ‘yon. Pero kung hindi mo pahahalagahan sarili mo afterwards, magiging losyang ka. Gusto mo ba ‘yon? Makikita ka ng ex mo, ta’s mapapaisip s’ya na buti na lang hiniwalayan ka n’ya. OMG, hell no girl. I got your back! Kailangan pag nakita tayo ng ex natin, mapapangiwi s’ya na hiniwalayan ka n’ya. Hoy, di ‘to para makuha ulit s’ya at bumalik sa’yo ah. Tantanan mo ko. Hindi din ‘to revenge. Magbibigay lang tayo ng konting kurot sa kanila. Ipapakita lang natin na hindi natin kawalan. At the same time, we are preparing ourselves sa bagong tao na darating sa buhay natin. Syempre, it gives us confidence din. Binabalik lang natin bilib natin sa sarili natin.
  5. Wag magmadali. Wag kang magmadali na makanahanap ng bagong ipapalit. Sabi nga nila, pag mabilis mo nakuha, mabilis din mawawala. Siguro its time naman for yourself. Asikasuhin mo muna ‘yong sarili mo. Make sure na okay na okay ka na. Tipong, pag dumaan s’ya sa harap mo, keber. Di ba? O kaya pag chinat ka n’ya sa gabi dahil lasing s’ya o bored s’ya, isi-seen zone mo lang. Taray mo girl! At syempre ayaw naman natin mangyari na maging panakip butas lang ang kalalabasan ng bago mo. Wag. Nasaktan ka na, alam mo ang pakiramdam. Wag mo gawin sa iba. Karma is a bitch and digital.

Pero syempre, at the end of the day, depende pa din ‘yan sa bawat tao. Meron tayong kan’ya-kan’yang coping mechanism. Oras lang talaga makapagpapahilom ng sakit. Wag din sana natin kalimutan na may mga bagay tayong natutuhan dahil sa taong ‘yon. Lahat ng ‘yan, normal. Humupa ka. Next time, magpapasalamat sa’yo sarili mo. Hugggs!

Too Good to be True Job Ads

There are a lot of things posted online about promising home-based jobs. Giving you high compensation but less work. And most of them are too good to be true! It’s saddening that most people are buying those kind of crap. And it’s ashamed because I was one of them.

I was looking for a decent home-based job on one of the most reliable site until I stumbled to an Ad. Nothing fancy on their ad and they were the only one who responded to my application. We all know that there are phases that you have to udergo to be fully qualified. And I did most of it. I was very happy that they responded, at the same time they were offering $700/month. I converted it to Peso and I was extremely happy. Though it’s kind of odd because we’re having a conversation regarding the job through Viber. Which was a little informal. So I tried to research the name of the recruiter that was stated on their first and only email.

What I found out was, it was a scam! There’s a Pinoy forum website that discusses scams, fraud jobs and what not. Lucky me, that I found it out. Unfortunately this happened on the first week of the month and I wasn’t thinking to blog about it so I deleted the email sent by them because of disappointment. So I don’t have the copy of it.  Though I have the Viber convo.

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The point is, they are not the only one who can take benefit of your needs to get a job. There’s a bunch them on internet. This isn’t my first time. I tried so many things and ended up being lied to.

I am a member of a group on facebook called Home-based Jobs for you. Technically it’s like a community helping one another to find a home-based job though of course taking benefit also when it comes to referral jobs.

I saw a post by one of the members from the said group about a job offering $25/hour. It really caught my attention to be honest. Without thinking I tried to look their website as well as the recruiter’s site. I can say, it looks like legitimately scam. LOL.

I made a research about this and found out that it is owned by Sherm Mason. There’s a lot of issues glued to him specifically scam activities. Two of the blogs I saw are generateonlinewealth.com and everyonecanmakemoneyonline.com. There’s also a youtube video reviewing about the scheme.

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It’s just so saddening that Pinoys buy this kind of thing. We cannot blame nobody because of the poverty we all experiencing in the cruel world. Putting in a nutshell, I can say that if we really in need of having an income, we make a research first. Such as reviews. Don’t stick to one or two reviews. Read as much as you can. And also, be vigilant. There are a lot of blogs providing you so many lists where you can find a decent home-based job. Well, good luck to all of us.

Aray ko, Beh.

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Hello! Ayan, kung napapansin n’yo Filipino/Tagalog tayo ngayon, para damang-dama. Saka, iba na naman pala URL ko. Ha-ha. Sorry na. Pero, ayon na nga, sisimulan ko mag-post ng Tagalog at kakulitan para happy lang, di ba?

Hindi ko alam kung bakit di ako maka-move on sa mga kaibigan ko sa facebook. Post ng post ng kung anek-anek tungkol sa love life nila. Akala yata ng nakararami, e diary o journal ang facebook. Di ko naman sinasabing perpekto ako at di ko naman itatanggi na di ko ginawa ‘yong mga gano’ng bagay, “Past is past” sabi nga ng iba. Ha-ha. Kaysa magparinig ako sa facebook ng opinyon at reklamo ko LOL, e dito ko na lang ililista lahat. Malay natin, may mapadpad na kiddo at mabasa ‘to. Makaiwas sa sakit ng pag-ibig at di na mag-post sawing damdamin sa facebook.

So, ito na nga ililista ko lahat ng natutuhan ko sa loob ng walong (8) taong relasyon para di masaktan sa pag-ibig. Pak!

  • WAG MAG-EXPECT. Kadalasan, halos lahat ata ng babae, e nag-set na ng standards. Kakapanood ng Koreanovela, o romantic movies nag-set na si girl ng mga gagawin ng boypren n’ya. Every occasion naghihintay s’ya na gagawin ng lalaki. Ta’s in the end, wala, nga-nga. Ta’s magagalit, mag-aaway, iiyak. O kaya naman, nag-e-expect na may gagawin ang boypren na something sweet, halimbawa, harana, chocolates or surprise. Ta’s pag di na meet ‘yung expectation, magpo-post sa facebook na dapat tinatrato ang babae bilang prinsesa o reyna. Di ba? Nakakaloka! We should always consider na each of us is unique. Kanya-kanyang diskarte ‘yan.
  • WAG MAG-ASSUME. Di porket sweet s’ya sayo, gusto ka na n’ya. Wag gano’n huy! Sinasabi ko sayo, ikaw lang ang ngangawa bandang huli. Join the ride, ta’s pag tumagal na ng mga 1 buwan, pwede mo na tanungin, “Hoy, ano, ano to? Landian lang ba? Tiyansingan? O pag-ibig na?” Maging prangka ka. Para di na tumagal. Pero syempre, tantiyahin mo din kung may laman ba talaga. Mamaya naman, concern na kaibigan lang ta’s praprangkahin mo. Ganda mo do’n girl! Halimbawa, pinulot lang ‘yong nahulog mong panyo, nag-feeling ka na. O kaya, sinabay lang kunin ‘yong pagkain mo sa lamesa kasi kukunin n’ya din ‘yong kanya.
  • EVERYONE IS UNIQUE. Para ‘tong ‘yong isa na WAG MAG-EXPECT. Wag mo s’ya ihalintulad sa iba na nakikita mo. Halimbawa, ‘yong jowa ng kaibigan mo sinurprise s’ya ng take-out Mcdo sa dis-oras ng gabi. Ta’s ikaw, gusto mo gano’n din s’ya sayo. Sana syinota mo na lang ‘yong jowa ng friend mo. Joke. Sabi ko nga, kanya-kanyang diskarte yan. Gusto mo perpekto? Gano’n?
  • KAHIT NAGNA-NUMBER TWO (2). Naalala ko ‘yong kaibigan kong lalaki, dumadaing sa’kin dati. Pano ba naman, pinag-aawayan nila ng dati n’ya girlfriend, e tungkol lang sa text. Ha-ha. “Gusto n’ya kahit tumat*e ako ite-text ko sa kan’ya.” Jusko day, lahat na lang. Sana tinadtad mo na lang ng CCTV ‘yong buong bahay nila para updated ka. May personal na buhay ang bawat tao. Di pa kayo mag-asawa sinasakal mo na. Bahala ka, magsasawa ‘yan. Ikaw din. Give space naman girl kahit mga 15 minutes lang.
  • KAHIT SAAN. Isa sa mga natutuhan ko, e pagtinanong ka kung ano at saan mo gusto kumain sa date n’yo, e sumagot ka. Wag, “Kahit saan” o “Bahala ka”. Kasi kung may plano naman talaga ang lalaki, di na magtatanong ‘yan. O pag nagtanong man ta’s sinagot mo ng “Bahala ka” ta’s binalik sa’yo ‘yong sagot mo mag-isip ka na. Wala talaga plano ‘yan. Kaysa pag-awanan n’yo ta’s di pa matuloy ‘yong date n’yo. Uuwi ka masama loob. Sayang ‘yong make-up mong ginawa mo ng isang (1) oras ta’s magpo-post ka ng kadramahan mo sa facebook na parang lahat ng tao may pake. LOL.

Anyway, lahat naman ng tao, e may kanya-kanyang opinyon at pananaw sa buhay. Nakakatawa lang isipin na kahit ako at boypren ko nag-aaway sa pinakasimpleng bagay. Magtatalo ta’s bigla na lang kaming tatawa at kakalma kasi napagtanto namin na para kaming tanga na nag-aaway na simpleng bagay. Ha-ha. Tingin ko, e lahat naman nagkakamali at natututo.

O sya, hanggang dito na lang muna. Mag-e-edit ako ng mga video ko at gagawin kong vlog dahil punong-puno na memory ng selpon ko. Ciao!

Tita Feels

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Tita Feels is an idiom joke in the Philippines. It means, girls aren’t young /teens anymore. Technically speaking we are getting older and in the situation of settling down and making your own family but you don’t have the plans yet. And everyone’s around you is getting married, having children and their children are calling you, “tita”.  Nope, just kidding. But technically you’re just growing up.

The picture above seems that it’s not related to the topic and I just edited it and put the title just for me to say that I have a banner for this post. Nuh-ah. But believe me, it is. It is related. I found these photos while I’m cleaning my room. These  were super old photos of me, my boyfriend and two of my other friends. And realized I’m not teenager anymore. So I created a list on how you identify if you’re in “Tita Feels” situation.

  • You chose to sleep over night out. You are so excited for Friday night not because for partying with your girlfriends all night long because, hello.. it’s TGIF but because you can definitely sleep for straight 3 nights.

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  • Social Medias aren’t important anymore. When you realized that ranting online is nonsense and seeing people’s selfies every 10 minutes is a total bullcrap. And when you realized that facebook isn’t the measurement of a relationship. And lastly, you have the guts to unfriend/unfollow those kind of people.

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  •  Billionaire everyday. When you realized that being a billionaire once a month doesn’t sound fun anymore. So you control yourself being an impulsive buyer and you begin to be stingy in so many ways. ’cause hello, why do  you want to be a billionaire once a month if you can be a millionaire every freaking day, right?

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  • Responsibilities. When you realized you have so many responsibilities but you still work it out. You go girl!

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  • Your parents are always right. You realized your parents were  right when they told you, don’t watch cartoons  1 inch-away from the monitor because it could cause sight problem.

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  • Love VS Logic. When you make decisions based on logic and not emotions. And when you realized that LOVE is a choice and not emotion.

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  • Being happy. Being happy doesn’t always mean that you  have to be in a relationship. You realized that you’re old enough to be happy because of the way you arem and you can be happy by choosing to be happy. And when you don’t give a crap anymore when someone’s shitting you.

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  • Long-term plans. When you think about future and chose long-term implications instead temporary happiness and being wasted from a party.

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Frankly we cannot stop being an adult. I think, what we have to do is deal with it, be contented and enjoy life. Anyway, mind over matter.

 

 

Life Recently

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I think this kind of category means I have to share what happened recently, what’s new or what not. So here I go..

New URL – So I decide to change my URL, from writekhay to spellkhay. I know, it looks like I copied Saab Magalona’s URL. I don’t know, ever since the world has begun I wanted to have this URL. No, just kidding. But yes, ever since I really wanted to have this URL. My name is a huge part of my personality and life. Of course. As well as people don’t know how to spell it correctly. I remember one time when my Tita and I went to the grocery store and bought  a cake. Of course, we have to wait for not less than 15 minutes to get the cake. So we decided to buy some stuff inside and asked the sale person that we’ll be right back. So he asked our names for identification, my Tita said my name and the sale person spelled it “Key”. After that, my Tita always calls me, Key. As in Key (kih). It’s not funny at all. Seriously.

I am jobless – I’m not bragging this out or spilling this out to the whole world, but yes I m jobless. I’m not really sure what to type in here. But hey, I’m looking for a job online. Home-based job particularly. I discovered a lot of things online and I’m trying my best to support myself. I’ll make a blog post about what I’ve discovered. Soon!

Weekend getaway – Last weekend, we went swimming with my boyfriend and 4 of our friends. It was just unplanned but it went smoothly great. I want to make a separate post about it but I don’t have enough photos to show.

Decluttering my room – Last week, I tried as best as I could to rearrange so of my stuff in my room. Found some things from the past such as my old planners, skatchpads and some old photos. It was tiring. I’m not yet finished though I was planning to paint the whole room and apply all the DIYs I read online.

Place to chill – We discovered a new place to hang out. Totally artsy. I’ll make a separate post about it if I not going to procrastinate on the following days.

All ears – I already switched to Spotify permanently since 8Track isn’t available in the Philippines anymore. And I discovered so many new awesome musics to listen to! And what’s great about the application is they have so many tracks that already listed in playlists depending onto your mood! They also offering a promo today, Php 9.00/month for your first 3 months! OMG it still excites me.

New course – I am taking a new online course. Since I am unemployed, I have to grab the chance and maximize the time while I don’t have any commitment to any company yet. The course will last for 20 days. Everyday I just have to take the class for 20 minutes. If I have spare time, I can definitely take all classes in just 1 hell a day. It’s totally free and I will get a certificate after finishing a particular course!

That’s all. Nothing fancy. Got my pen and planner, and I will try to post once or twice a week. Noone’s reading this little world of mine but I just wanna track everything so in the future I can laugh myself. Haha.

 

 

 

Vanilla Books’ Soft Opening Giveaway 2016

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Hey guys! First off, Happy New Year. I know, I know I wasn’t so active here anymore, I am too busy being happy in life. I’m doing so many changes to my plans since last year. And this time, I chose to be happy. Anyway, I’ll post separate post about my bucket list for 2016 and what happened for the past weeks.

Let’s talk about Vanilla Books Ph, they’re independent store selling books (brand new or not) online. They just recently celebrated their soft opening yesterday, January 6 and they’re currently running a giveaway contest!

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If you want a free book and discount vouchers, you might want to check their online account for instructions how to win.

Here are their accounts:
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Instagram

Happy reading! 🙂

Hey, Monday!

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Was about to take photo for the blog and this little guy cutely ruined it.

I know it’s not Monday anymore, I wrote this down to my old 2014 planner again. So let me start this rant. Ha-ha.

I just arrived home from my 2-day adventure slash spending my 13th month pay. An additional bonus given by the company I’m working for, and it’s been a year now! It’s my first 13th month pay in my entire 23 years of existence. I know, your eyebrow rises, don’t judge me. I know what I’m doing.

In my 2-day adventure outside with my boyfriend and some couple of friends, I’ve learned so many things. A lot of realizations, changes of perspective and plans written in the air.

Literally, it’s like meeting with friends on a Sunday night with glass wine for each of us, but instead of wine, we had beer. It was a routine we were used to but we’re just grown up people now. The room was filled with people who have plans and wanted to hear each other’s plans and humor. All I heard were exchanging plans, sorrow, lessons learned and laughter. I could include it on my best nights list.

And then, I read this post by the blogger I’m following on tumblr. She said, a lot of us are waiting for the “perfect time” to do what we’re planning to. But then, we can fuck it up and do what matters most. What makes you happy. What makes you feel successful. It gave me courage to do this huge plan, maybe, I was waiting for the “perfect timing” but not anymore. What I’m waiting now, is to finish what I had started and start the new plan. Not detailed plan but a draft plan. Maybe, I just want to finish this so I could say, I have achievements. I don’t know, but I will, one way or another. Next year will be my year.

How about you? You have plans for next year already?